The 5 Languages of Love
Julia Unterberger
There are 1.000 ways of to show your love. But some ways are simply more effective then others. Dr. Gary Chapman found out that there are 5 major „Languages of Love“ or strategies of expressing love to others.
Everyone gives and receives love differently. What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! If couples and parents learn the simple way to express their feelings targeted this can create so much joy and happiness.
How Do You Give & Receive Love? This love languages work for married or dating couples, for children and teenagers, for friends or brand-new loves. I even believe for everyone.
Dr. Gary Chapman’s defined them like this
#1: Words of Affirmation
#2: Quality Time
#3: Receiving Gifts
#4: Acts of Service
#5: Physical Touch
#1: Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
#2: Quality Time
For those whose love language is spoken with Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
#3: Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
#4: Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
#5: Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Which type of love matters most for you?
Did you find yourself within the last five languages of love? Choose – which matters most for you? If your are not 100% sure you can make the test here to find out your love language:
By clicking the button you will go the the website „5lovelanguages.com“
Expressing your love consciously, can make a big difference in your relationships.
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